[syndicate] Re: Re: ask usenet

[Fr. M.]

you talkin' to me ?

f.

At 10:51 12/09/2003 -0700, you wrote:
>"we tend to interpret avoidance of eye-contact as a signal for
>deceptiveness. On the other hand, almost constant eye-contact may
>be interpreted as deliberate overcompensation, so may also be
>interpreted as a signal of deceptiveness. Much depends, as always,
>on our assessment of the context and of the other person...I once
>had a boss who met almost any even slightly awkward question with
>prolonged, unblinking eye-contact. As I was the union
>representative at the time, I took this as an attempt to intimidate
>me, so stared back, which always became so absurd after a time that
>I could barely repress my laughter, with the result that when he
>did eventually say something it was greeted by a broad smile from
>me. He then became visibly more relaxed, presumably because he
>thought I was pleased by his reply, only to tense up visibly when
>my rejoinder made it perfectly clear that I was far from satisfied.
>A lot of potential there for communication breakdown! When one of
>my students went to interview him, his question was also met with a
>prolonged stare. As this student had just come from another college
>whose principal was open, friendly and accessible, it didn't occur
>to the student to interpret the stare as an attempt to intimidate.
>He was in fact just about to spring from his chair and go to the
>principal's assistance when the principal finally spoke. As the
>student reported to me after the interview, he thought that the
>principal was suffering a catatonic fit."
>
>http://www.cultsock.ndirect.co.uk/MUHome/cshtml/index.html
>
>"Fr. M." <fmadre at free.fr> wrote:At 23:09 11/09/2003 -0700, you
>wrote:
> >Would you like to talk
> >now
> >or later?
>
>not to you.
>
>f.
>
>
>
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